Why Chasing After People Is A Bad Idea

Everyone at some point in their lives will get so attached to someone that they can't imagine their life without them. It's that person who we've known for 5 minutes; yet it feels like a lifetime. It's that person who we don't know how we managed to cope without them. It's that person who you want to talk to every single second of every single day. It's that person who makes you smile every time you hear their voice or see them. It's that person who you could spend hours with and not get bored. Its that person who's your first thought in the morning and your last when you go to sleep. It's that person.

And it's also that person who makes you wonder why. Why you weren't good enough. Why they started to ignore you. Why they stopped replying to your texts. Why they never called you back. Why they'd rather be with her and not you. Why they promised you the world and you end up with nothing. Why they only talk to you when they're bored and everyone else has stopped replying. Why they say "hey, let's meet up" but then they never give you a day or time. Why they've gone from spending hours talking to you to hours talking to her. Why they can move on without telling you. Why they tell you things you've always wanted to hear them say and then walk away. Why they think it's okay for them to leave you in the dark. It's that person.

It's also that person that you shouldn't be chasing after. You deserve so much better. Even if right now you think they're all you want, you're wrong. They're not who you want. You want someone who treats you how you're supposed to be treated. You want someone who'll always have you on their mind. You want someone who will text you all through the day; even when they're busy. You want someone who will say "hey, let's meet up" and will sort out the day and time so that you don't feel pressured to. You want that person.

You are a truly amazing individual and you don't need someone to make you constantly wonder why. Yes, someone might come into your life who you think, at the time, that you could never be without. But that isn't true. You can live without them. You've done it before and you can do it now. You don't need someone to complete your life. I know it's a nice feeling when you meet someone who you feel completes you. In fact it's more than nice: it's amazing. But the truth is, you don't need that person. You are your own person. You can do this by yourself. 

So don't go chasing after people. If they're not missing you, why should you miss them? If they truly missed you they would show it. They would call. They would text. They would show an interest in your life. So let them do the chasing. You shouldn't have to. Because while you're busy chasing the wrong one, the right one is busy chasing you.

Love Beth xx